The Open Chair: Why Your Church Grows by Getting Smaller

Here is a tension you have probably felt in your bones. You want your church to reach more people, but you also know every name, every story, every hard week your folks are walking through. The bigger it gets, the more afraid you are that someone will slip out the back door unnoticed. That fear is not a flaw. It is the heart of a shepherd.

The answer to that tension is one of the most quietly powerful ideas in church life: a church grows larger and smaller at the same time. Larger to reach more people. Smaller, through groups, so no one falls through the cracks. Group life is the engine that lets you do both at once. Let me walk you through how it actually works.

Groups are your assimilation engine

Let's be honest about what keeps people. New members who join a group connect, make friends, and stay. People who only attend the service drift out the back door over time. Group involvement is what drives volunteering, faith-sharing, and the steady incorporation of newcomers.

And here is the encouraging part: the demand already exists. Roughly 80% of new members will join a group if one is offered to them. The bottleneck is almost never willingness. It is supply. You do not have a people problem. You have a groups problem, and that is a far more fixable thing.

Get the size right (8 to 12)

The optimal group size is 8 to 12 people, with a healthy range of about 3 to 15. Once a group grows past roughly 12, the depth of sharing starts to erode. A group of 10 is not just a bigger version of a group of 4. It becomes a different kind of thing. It needs shared leadership, and discussion that breaks into smaller sub-groups so quieter voices still get heard.

So the lever for growth is not enlarging your existing groups. It is starting new ones. Groups tend to saturate somewhere between 9 and 18 months. If a group has not grown in 6 months, assume it has plateaued. A good rhythm to aim for is one new group per five existing groups every two years.

Make prayer the priority, not lesson prep

This next finding changed how I coach leaders. In a study of around 3,000 group leaders, the single factor most correlated with group health and growth was the leader's prayer life. Among leaders with strong prayer lives, 83% saw someone come to Christ. Among those with weak prayer lives, only 19% did.

Now here is the part that should set you free: there was zero correlation between time spent on lesson prep and group growth. Read that again. So when you raise up leaders, do not hand them a stack of curriculum and tell them to study harder. Teach them to pray for their group and for their lost friends. That is the work that bears fruit.

Invest in the 75% between meetings

The weekly meeting itself is only about 25% of what matters. The other 75% is the care that happens between gatherings: the phone calls, the shared meals, the showing up when someone lands in the hospital. A great study with no between-meeting care will still lose people.

This is exactly why you need a co-leader in every group. Share the care load. Assign who checks in on whom during the week. No one person can carry a group alone, and frankly, no one should.

Run a clean meeting and keep the chair open

A simple, repeatable flow keeps a group healthy. One proven 90-minute model looks like this: 10 to 15 minutes of fellowship, then prayer, then the material, then discussion, announcements, and a closing prayer. Throughout, hold the 70/30 rule: members should carry about 70% of the talking, the leader about 30%. Your job is to draw people out, not to perform.

Then keep an Open Chair. Leave a literal empty seat in every group circle, representing the next person to invite. Pair it with an invitation list. That single practice keeps a group facing outward and primed to grow. Remember, new people generally start new groups rather than getting added to closed ones.

Screen your leaders with STARs

You do not need seminary graduates to lead a group. You need character. A simple filter to screen potential leaders is STARs: Servant-hearted, Teachable, Available, and Reliable. Groups open up leadership to far more people than a pastor-centered model ever could, and that is precisely what your church needs to grow past your own personal span of care.

Where this fits your milestones

The path is clear. On your way to 25, build one healthy group of 8 to 12 (often your own) with an Open Chair and prayer-driven leadership from day one. Toward 50, launch a second group before the first crowds past 12 and raise a co-leader. Toward 75, settle into that one-new-group-per-five rhythm and coach leaders between meetings. By 100, make groups the default front door for assimilation. Beyond 100, formalize the multiplication of groups so you keep adding people without ever losing the care.

One caution worth naming: groups older than about two years tend to develop an instinct for self-preservation and quietly repel newcomers. Multiplication discipline matters more than the comfort of staying the same.

Your challenge this week

Pick your one existing group (or start with your own) and add a literal empty chair to the circle at your next meeting. Tell the group what it means, and ask each person to write down one name they could invite to fill it. That one act turns a closed circle into an open door.